Month: March 2015

The Art of Doing Nothing

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The Italians have an expression, “dolce far niente” –the sweetness of doing nothing. Wouldn’t it be nice if all of us took time to ourselves without a plan, a “to do” list or “honey do” list? Wouldn’t it be better to simply take some time, be it 30 minutes to two hours possibly, in the middle of the day to just do nothing?

Just to relax, close your eyes, take a nap, watch the sea–most of all to give a break to your brain. Let your mind quiet down. I know it sounds absurd, but some Europeans do it every day.

Unfortunately, most of us are all so entrenched in the work ethic that we couldn’t forgive ourselves to get a break just because we feel like it. It has been proven, however, that all of us need a break daily and not once or twice a year. The benefits are numerous. Health benefits, lower stress levels, decreased blood pressure, better sleep patterns, more fulfilling days and longer lives. Should I say more?

And yet, most of us don’t do it. Our reasons are many. We’d rather wait once or twice a year for that precious one or two weeks of vacation during which we try to do everything, including unfinished chores in the house.

Otherwise, we are waiting for a cherished weekend. We take one of the two days–or both–and we work on our “honey do” list. We may be lucky to have Sunday to ourselves, where we try to relax and be casual around the house because we’re tired from all of the demands of the prior week. If we have this lucky Sunday to ourselves, maybe we go to a restaurant or, if we have the energy, drive somewhere. Really, is that all life is meant to be?

Why do we have to make work the center of our universe? Why do we only have to arrange our lives around work? Do you ever wonder? Yes, we all need money to live. But what is it all worth if we’re miserable, stressed and on target to die early never having lived, simply existed?

Are you aware there are countries where living life comes first and everything else arranged around that goal?

Imagine how different your life could be; how more efficient your work could be; the energy you could have daily; and, how you can reach more goals.

I understand that there are times, and people, when one could say, “I couldn’t do this even if I tried. Not in my workplace.” Maybe I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt if you’re in certain professions for example, ER surgeon or nurse etc. But what about the rest of us?

Folks, most of us especially the younger ones, do not pay attention to trivial and foreign habits. All we try is to belong; to conform; to mimic the behavior or others.

As we’re getting older, and only if we’re open to new ideas and we question everything, then some of us start exploring and wondering what is the right path for us.

We may start with taking a walk just because we want to and eventually it becomes a habit. Others may do another small little thing to relax our mind, body and spirit. It can be as simple as taking a walk or peacefully drinking a cup of tea a set time every day and not allowing anyone to enter your space during that “sacred” time.

Try it. Give yourself a couple of weeks to start getting breaks in every day and see how you feel at the end of the week. I’m sure you will find the world did not come to an end because you took some time out for yourself. If you don’t find any difference whatsoever, don’t continue doing it.

But, what if you see another side of yourself and life. One that is more relaxed and vibrant. Wouldn’t it be a good reason to repeat this break time? I bet it would!

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Posted: March 26, 2015

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Never Say “Quit”

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It has been a long time since I sat down to write and I missed it. Today, I want to write about how life interferes while we are busy making plans.

Life can be unforgiving, twirling us hard, hitting us against obstacles and challenges daily. We just need to keep on going.

These past two years have been very challenging for me due to travels and unforeseen situations in certain environments. What I learned is not to lose hope. As I heard from someone who lived to be 100 years old, you just have to plan every day and continue forward. Do everything the best you can in anything you do each day. The rest, anything you cannot change with no power to make a difference, simply let it go.

Decide every day to be happy – no matter what. Stress is self-induced and over-rated. Yes, there are times when we all reach our limit, but what if we decided not to be affected by the negative (news, attitudes, etc.)?

What if we started extracting negativity from our lives? What if we avoided miserable people who can steal the energy out of us in minutes?

Do you come into contact with positive people? Always try to be close to them. They will only lift you up.

The hardest thing in life is to keep being inspired with all the good that can happen to us even while in the meantime we are faced with challenges. That is where many of us despair, lose confidence or get depressed.

Believe me there is light on the other side. You just have to go through the darkness first in order to appreciate the sunshine.

There were times when I thought of letting everything go; no more trying. But there was always this voice inside that was telling me, “You came so far – for what? You have to keep on going.” And, that’s what I did.

Do not lose hope. Believe deeply in something or someone. A friend, a loved one can help on your path. Sometimes, even a stranger can help. It is always better to have someone with whom to talk and walk together.

Sometimes we come so close to finding our calling in life, but because of all the difficulties that life throws us we fall short of reaching our goals. Persevere no matter what. Yes, life can be cruel, but yet so beautiful. You have a choice in perspective – no matter what.

Find a reason why you want to do what you are doing. Why? For whom? Yourself? Your loved ones? And, before you go to sleep at night, remember that “why”. The next day before you start your day, remember it again.

Why are you doing what you’re doing?

It is to find your freedom?

Is it to help others?

Is it to change your work circumstances?

Whatever that “why” is, let it guide you to persevere no matter what.

Expect difficulties and be prepared to handle obstacles. Have the attitude that “I can”.

Once I read somewhere that if you want something out of life bad enough, the Universe will conspire to offer it to you. You just have to keep going.

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Posted: March 23, 2015

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